August 3, 2011
In life we sometimes find ourselves running “full steam ahead” and other times hitting the wall. This can be at best a surprise or at worst, result in a sore nose. What do we do when this happens? Typically, there are a number of ways we react to this.
- We stop
- We stare at it as though questioning the existence of the wall
- We stop and focus on our sore nose or toes from the impact
- We get annoyed that it slowed us down
- We sit down and think about who must have put it there
- We sit and think about what a big wall it is
- We sit and consider whether it’s made of wood, plaster or brick
- We sit and wonder if it’s the only wall out there
- We sit and wonder how many walls might be waiting for us
- We want to find that wall builder and give him a piece of our mind – the blame game
I could go on. This is what I’ve done when hit by walls in my path and I know I’m not unique. There are problems with this list. Blame doesn’t change anything. Whether we find someone to yell at or not, the wall is still there. If we were moving along so nice and fast, we can be glad we made some progress and thus know that the wall doesn’t necessarily present as big a problem as we initially thought. We can get on our feet again. You know, when you’re sitting down on the ground looking up at the wall, it looms larger than life, but when you get up on your feet and face it, that initial reaction begins to change to one more reality based. We should, rather than dwelling on how it was built, focus on how we are going to knock it down or break through it! Can’t do either one of those? We will simply have to learn to climb over it! As to how many walls we might face as we begin again to move forward? Why be slowed down by concerning ourselves with walls that may not even be out there? We will cope with them when and if they appear. Besides, while the first one was a shock to us and loomed larger than life, as we approach more and more of them, our skills in managing the challenge will have grown and experience will tell us that facing the wall wasn’t something that stopped us, but rather something that helped us to grow stronger!